So, my ex-husband lives in Europe and comes back to the US to work in the town I live in a few times a year. The problem is that he sometimes comes back to work in the building I have to work in occasionally as well. …

I remember when I was married, things were so hopeless, there was so much abuse that I would descend into such a dark place of bitterness. Bitterness was such a place of immobilization and I recall vividly the visceral feeling of bitterness. It felt like a death in my abdomen…

My husband used to appreciate the things I did for him. When we dated, he was filled with appreciation. But that appreciation crumbled into grating complaints not long after we got married, although the complaints inched in during engagement. He didn’t necessarily complain about me, but he complained about the…

You may be wondering what you are looking at. I wasn’t sure what I was looking at when my then-husband showed me this pin stuck in a kitchen sponge. He said, “See?” I pondered the pin and sponge silently. “Creativity. This is creativity.” My eyebrows go up, still thinking. …

The last few years of our marriage went from bad to worse. He was a charming man at the outset, but he was incredibly needy. Foolishly, I thought that would go away. The neediness didn’t come off as neediness, in the beginning, it came in little barbs, little prickles, like…

Sure, you can have your own delusions, hubby — I relate strongly to Kim Wexler from Better Call Saul. When Jimmy McGill tells her batshit crazy ideas and schemes, she stands there with nearly no expression on her face, flat affect, she is silent for a bit, then with a grimace, she says, “ok.” And moves on with life. …

Isn’t part of a surprise party the fact that it was not expected? — So, one of the many gripes my ex-husband had against his first wife was that she didn’t throw him a surprise birthday party. I mean, this aggrieved him, he nursed his anger on this issue. What a weird thing to be angry about. Most people never have a surprise birthday…

When I was married, my husband often interrogated me about what the therapist and I talked about during our sessions. Which is wrong. This led me to change therapists a few times during the marriage because he wanted to financially destroy each therapist because he suspected I talked about him…

So you think the Asian woman is submissive? — As a Japanese-American person, I’ve heard all sorts of fucked up comments from non-Asians about what it is to be Japanese, about Japanese customs, and also their interpretations of the fantasy of the submissive Japanese woman who does everything for their man. I think what it means to be Japanese…